Make Your Wishes Known

10 02 2011

Three years ago today, my younger sister was involved in a serious car accident. Longtime readers know the details, but the short version is that we spent four days on a roller coaster of emotion as she lay in a coma suffering from traumatic brain injuries. She was 26 and had likely never given a single thought to her own mortality. When the doctors told us that there was no brain activity, we were left with the painful decision of whether or not to disconnect her from life support. I’ve no doubt that we made the right choice–the one she would have wanted and the only one that was morally conscionable. Her mom and dad, though, will always question if they did what was right and what she would have wanted.  So I urge each of you today to give the issue some thought. Institute a living will, talk to your spouses, your children, your parents. Make your wishes known.

And for the record, if a machine is all that’s keeping me alive, unplug it. “Living” in a vegetative state isn’t living at all. And then cremate what’s left…the expense of even a basic funeral with casket, embalming, etc. is something that would be a burden to even financially comfortable families…whatever is cheapest is fine with me, and the idea of people parading past my airbrushed corpse is, frankly, nauseating.




4 responses

10 02 2011

Amen and amen.

10 02 2011
The Incredible Woody

People don’t like to talk about things like that. But it is something that everyone should. Make your wishes known.

10 02 2011
Liz C.

I’m with you all the way! Hubby and I downloaded living wills off the internet and signed them at our attorney’s office. You can customize them too. Once I’m gone, I don’t care what happens to the old body. It’s just a temporary vessel anyway….

18 02 2011
big hair envy

Your last paragraph echoes everything I’ve ever expressed to my husband and daughter. I’ve never thought to use the term “air-brushed”, but you can bet it will be included the next time this conversation comes up. GAH!

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